Celebrations are always considered as times of joy..not only of joy..but, a time of togetherness, a time when a person gets the feeling that "I am not alone", I have people who I can call my own, who will cherish my presence and my accomplishments. I believe each and every person who celebrates any occasion of his life would have all these at least deep in his mind, if not as a visible thought of concern.
We have been hearing a lot of the various levels of celebrations - from star weddings to declaration of the New Seven Wonders to what not, consuming of crores and crores of rupees. For the people who are involved in it, the money spent would not be a matter of concern at all. They would be happy to have celebrated in the best possible way. Whether there were people who did not have the money to have one cup of tea in a day do not matter to them. They are happy and they do not care about others. I do not claim that you can the make the whole world happy, but when you are celebrating, it would be better if you can at least think a bit of the unprivileged. I am of the opinion that it would bring you a different kind of mental satisfaction at the end of the day.
For me, celebrations are all a matter of sharing the joy with those who are so important to me in my life. I don't believe in pompous parties and extravagant decorations, but I would give more thought into spending quality time, as per my heart desires. That would be my mode of enjoyment and that would help me feel satisfactory that the day was good.
Yesterday was a day of celebration for me. As I had pointed out in previous note, we were celebrating the first anniversary of the change in our marital status. We had a good time together, a lunch, good round of roaming around and shopping, and a superb dinner. But, the fact was that we spend the time between ourselves, reassuring the effects the magical presence of both could do to either of us. Rather than anything else, this gave us good mental happiness, and the power to embark on to yet another year. Almighty was so kind in granting one good year to us. We laughed, fought, cried, fell down, and rose again through the learnings, had different opinions, but finally consented to one..All these came in to our minds yesterday. But, HE gave us the strength to go forward. He had already put in the feeling of oneness which was so important to us and which is our guiding factor. Yes...We believe we are one..we are together..always...Yesterday my Amma was telling about the dream in her mind, when she was wishing us on our special day. Let the God above shower his blessings to walk together and also to let dreams come true..And last, but not the least, Thanks to my friend for life to having made me so happy with a wonderful way to celebrate. :)
Wednesday, July 11, 2007
Monday, July 9, 2007
A tribute to the institution of marriage - Happy Wedding Anniversary to us..:)
Every person takes on the institution of marriage in a different way. For some, it is just an action to be fulfilled in life. For some others, it is something which should be exercised giving our possible very best. I belong to the latter part. I believe, it is all about getting someone as a life long companion, someone who do not wipe the tears that fall off your cheeks, but rather makes sure that such a situation is not created.
Friendship is a gift that God has given to us. And friends are the people who stay with us through thick and thin, having a great laugh when we are happy and sharing our heavy heart, when we are sad. I take on the concept of marriage, as a bonding with a special person, with the life long companionship as the base. It is like getting a life long friend.
And everything depends on fate. Particularly, in an arranged marriage situation, whatever you know of the person is very less. Hence fate determines the way you are going to savour your life. And Let us pray to God Almighty for a peaceful and pleasant life.
All these thoughts came up, when I was turning back at my one year old married life. Yes..Tomorrow is July 10, 2007. And it was exactly an year ago, that I became Mrs. Vidya Vaidyanath. Precisely, the day in which Gopu became my best friend for life. We have had number of good and bad moments in this short span. Sweet memories like our honeymoon at Kodai and Lonavala, our short stay at Pune, the shift to Mumbai and Capgemini, and the roaming around sessions in Mumbai..and what not...:)...But surely, our pricely moment in the last one year is our abode "Sreedalam". That is our most precious possession till now. Thank God for all that You have given to us till now, and praying for Your blessings in the years to come.
Once again...Let us celebrate our Anniversary in our own special way :)
Friendship is a gift that God has given to us. And friends are the people who stay with us through thick and thin, having a great laugh when we are happy and sharing our heavy heart, when we are sad. I take on the concept of marriage, as a bonding with a special person, with the life long companionship as the base. It is like getting a life long friend.
And everything depends on fate. Particularly, in an arranged marriage situation, whatever you know of the person is very less. Hence fate determines the way you are going to savour your life. And Let us pray to God Almighty for a peaceful and pleasant life.
All these thoughts came up, when I was turning back at my one year old married life. Yes..Tomorrow is July 10, 2007. And it was exactly an year ago, that I became Mrs. Vidya Vaidyanath. Precisely, the day in which Gopu became my best friend for life. We have had number of good and bad moments in this short span. Sweet memories like our honeymoon at Kodai and Lonavala, our short stay at Pune, the shift to Mumbai and Capgemini, and the roaming around sessions in Mumbai..and what not...:)...But surely, our pricely moment in the last one year is our abode "Sreedalam". That is our most precious possession till now. Thank God for all that You have given to us till now, and praying for Your blessings in the years to come.
Once again...Let us celebrate our Anniversary in our own special way :)
Wednesday, July 4, 2007
Why should boys have all the fun?
I know I may sound a typical feminist to anyone who reads this sentence. I was just quoting the statement from an advertisement which brought in some feelings into me. But, the fact is that I am not a feminist. I believe in accurate opinions, strong character and value for whatever a person does and all the more sincerity in thoughts, feelings and actions.
Actually, the punch line of the ad, invoked so many questions in my mind. And to top it, I read a piece of news which talked about a gal who was stabbed by her lover for walking away from their affair and the fact that after days of struggling for life, she succumbed finally. And this happened in a busy street in day time. Seriously I am not bothered about where it happened and why did not the passers-by react to this and all that. You cannot expect such considerate reactions from people living in this century. Leave people living in metros, you cannot expect this from those living in rural areas even.
What bothered me a lot was the fact that the reason that made the guy do such a big cruelty to the gal. As per the news, they had a relationship running between them and had stopped that a few days back, due to parental opposition. Since it was the gal who took the first step of walking back, he was not able to succumb to that. Hence, this cruel gesture.
This poses some other questions to me. For every individual, his/her life is so important and our own decisions should be the ultimate in that regard. But, in some matters like relationships which pose parental pressure, would you as an individual try to pacify and make your parents understand, or would you just walk with the person you love, leaving the people who took all pains for you, right from the day you were admitted to this beautiful world? I would say, it depends from person to person, but, the fact that you are embarking on to a relationship when people to whom you mean so much and vice-versa are too much disappointed. It is very sure that you cannot feel good at heart at this situation. And ultimately, you are doing this for your own mental happiness and with that, if you get an additional disappointment, then doesn't that spoil your happiness?
I am not of the opinion that affairs and subsequent marriages are bad, but the fact that when embarking into such relations, get all people who are close with you, to be in the happier mood, to shower their blessings on you. Make them understand what you feel like and why you say that this relationship is important for you. Make them understand the importance your partner is going to make not only in your life, but also in the lives of all associated with you. I know this is easily said than done. But, the truth is that you should be able to do it.
Many a time, as I was quoting in the example earlier in my thoughts, gals are the ones who get worried when parents oppose their relationship. I am not saying that guys do not get upset, but many a time, they would be ready to face, or they be ready to try till the last moment hoping a positive response. But, gals would get really worried and there would only be a very small percentage who would actually have the courage to face any consequences that would come. You cannot blame it on the girls, but it is their true feminine nature that comes in. And here comes the tragic part. The worry causes them to take the last step, with a real heavy heart. The last decision...to walk away. But, when taking this decision, a fact that any girl should understand is that you are bound to take care of the masculine nature here. A gal may be able to suppress her feelings and say that last word, but a guy would not be able to actually take it so easily. His consciousness would tell him to go forward, keeping aside all negative thoughts and oppositions. This would prevent him to accept this fact. And to top it all, from the next day, the gal starts avoiding him, which is like a humiliation to him. This would make him take the last step. And the funniest part of it is that the gal would be blamed many a time for having embarked on the relationship and for having dropped it off in an instant. I am not generalizing this, but this is a common situation in many Indian states, at least.
The only way is either be sure of all situations and circumstances, when you embark on relationships, and also whether you would be able to convince all oppositions, if required. I am not saying that we can predict the future, but at least you should have the confidence to embark on it. And as they say, Love happens accidentally. So if this doesn't work out for you and the situation for walk away is unavoidable, be sure that both ends are at peace and are able to accept the fact. This is quite important for a girl the most. No blames should come for you when you walk away. A relationship is not a wrong thing to happen, neither a walk away is, under the most unavoidable cases. But it all depends on how it is handled. Certain instances of lovers being cruel could not be avoided, as such cases are never in your hands, but in all normal circumstances, all necessary steps can be done.
Approach any relationship with utmost sincerity, thinking many times, before the final "yes". But, if God not willing, then, be good at walk-aways, and do think of walk-aways only if it is to that extent unavoidable.
Love happens to both people involved. It happens when both share their feelings for each other. But, why should a gal only suffer the blame of being walked-away, when her gentle and cute nature and her concern for the happiness of her people, brings her the whole blame? Leave relationships, why should their be a separate eye for all actions related to gals, even if they have proved their efficiency? I am not saying that gals should protest against being looked upon from a different eye. That doesn't help. For some situations, the genetic differences and physical built-up differences between a male and a female are quite important. But, for situations where they have proved their efficiency or in situations where, a heart-breaking decision by a gal couldn't be accepted well, should not be a factor for her to be arrowed out. Consider efficiency and maturity and the character more than anything else. Why should boys have all the fun for all actions, in which gals have proved to be efficient? Just a wide thought :)
Actually, the punch line of the ad, invoked so many questions in my mind. And to top it, I read a piece of news which talked about a gal who was stabbed by her lover for walking away from their affair and the fact that after days of struggling for life, she succumbed finally. And this happened in a busy street in day time. Seriously I am not bothered about where it happened and why did not the passers-by react to this and all that. You cannot expect such considerate reactions from people living in this century. Leave people living in metros, you cannot expect this from those living in rural areas even.
What bothered me a lot was the fact that the reason that made the guy do such a big cruelty to the gal. As per the news, they had a relationship running between them and had stopped that a few days back, due to parental opposition. Since it was the gal who took the first step of walking back, he was not able to succumb to that. Hence, this cruel gesture.
This poses some other questions to me. For every individual, his/her life is so important and our own decisions should be the ultimate in that regard. But, in some matters like relationships which pose parental pressure, would you as an individual try to pacify and make your parents understand, or would you just walk with the person you love, leaving the people who took all pains for you, right from the day you were admitted to this beautiful world? I would say, it depends from person to person, but, the fact that you are embarking on to a relationship when people to whom you mean so much and vice-versa are too much disappointed. It is very sure that you cannot feel good at heart at this situation. And ultimately, you are doing this for your own mental happiness and with that, if you get an additional disappointment, then doesn't that spoil your happiness?
I am not of the opinion that affairs and subsequent marriages are bad, but the fact that when embarking into such relations, get all people who are close with you, to be in the happier mood, to shower their blessings on you. Make them understand what you feel like and why you say that this relationship is important for you. Make them understand the importance your partner is going to make not only in your life, but also in the lives of all associated with you. I know this is easily said than done. But, the truth is that you should be able to do it.
Many a time, as I was quoting in the example earlier in my thoughts, gals are the ones who get worried when parents oppose their relationship. I am not saying that guys do not get upset, but many a time, they would be ready to face, or they be ready to try till the last moment hoping a positive response. But, gals would get really worried and there would only be a very small percentage who would actually have the courage to face any consequences that would come. You cannot blame it on the girls, but it is their true feminine nature that comes in. And here comes the tragic part. The worry causes them to take the last step, with a real heavy heart. The last decision...to walk away. But, when taking this decision, a fact that any girl should understand is that you are bound to take care of the masculine nature here. A gal may be able to suppress her feelings and say that last word, but a guy would not be able to actually take it so easily. His consciousness would tell him to go forward, keeping aside all negative thoughts and oppositions. This would prevent him to accept this fact. And to top it all, from the next day, the gal starts avoiding him, which is like a humiliation to him. This would make him take the last step. And the funniest part of it is that the gal would be blamed many a time for having embarked on the relationship and for having dropped it off in an instant. I am not generalizing this, but this is a common situation in many Indian states, at least.
The only way is either be sure of all situations and circumstances, when you embark on relationships, and also whether you would be able to convince all oppositions, if required. I am not saying that we can predict the future, but at least you should have the confidence to embark on it. And as they say, Love happens accidentally. So if this doesn't work out for you and the situation for walk away is unavoidable, be sure that both ends are at peace and are able to accept the fact. This is quite important for a girl the most. No blames should come for you when you walk away. A relationship is not a wrong thing to happen, neither a walk away is, under the most unavoidable cases. But it all depends on how it is handled. Certain instances of lovers being cruel could not be avoided, as such cases are never in your hands, but in all normal circumstances, all necessary steps can be done.
Approach any relationship with utmost sincerity, thinking many times, before the final "yes". But, if God not willing, then, be good at walk-aways, and do think of walk-aways only if it is to that extent unavoidable.
Love happens to both people involved. It happens when both share their feelings for each other. But, why should a gal only suffer the blame of being walked-away, when her gentle and cute nature and her concern for the happiness of her people, brings her the whole blame? Leave relationships, why should their be a separate eye for all actions related to gals, even if they have proved their efficiency? I am not saying that gals should protest against being looked upon from a different eye. That doesn't help. For some situations, the genetic differences and physical built-up differences between a male and a female are quite important. But, for situations where they have proved their efficiency or in situations where, a heart-breaking decision by a gal couldn't be accepted well, should not be a factor for her to be arrowed out. Consider efficiency and maturity and the character more than anything else. Why should boys have all the fun for all actions, in which gals have proved to be efficient? Just a wide thought :)
Monday, July 2, 2007
Rest in Peace... Joe, Sunitha and the little angels
Sunday, 1st July..woke me up with a very shocking news..One of my college classmates and a dear friend of mine, Joseph, Sunitha and their little angels, Sanjana and Sreya passed away in a car accident on their way back to Joseph's home at Kollam from Ernakulam. Real tragic news..Couldn't believe it was true for some time and prayed it should never be true...But "HE" had taken the decision to take this wonderful family to his stride then and there.
Anyways, I was really shocked. Not only me..the whole of CEC, would be..I know... Joseph was a friend of all and a man who could be truly said lived fully as per his wishes alone and all the more, lived too cheerfully and enjoyed life to the fullest extent. His marriage itself was the talk of the college, truly coz he was just in 3rd sem(exactly crossed 21 years). Man of great dreams, and a guy who knows to talk right to the right people, That was Joe...And such a lovely couple they made..Joe and Sunitha..and the cute angels...
No words...God joined both of you as a couple. He gifted you two beautiful flowers and thankfully took all of you together to his palace. We miss you Joe...Miss your wonderful smile and decent and gentle nature. May all of your souls rest in peace. That is the only prayer which we mere human beings can do now.
This is a time when we think of how short lived we all are. And all the hungama we create for wealth, positions and all that in this short span, forgetting all sorts of values and virtues. May this never be repeated. May we not hear other tragic incidents like this..and Let us have the strength to accept "HIS" decisions and pray to him to guide us thru the right path. Winding this up, with a very cute snap of this beautiful family.
Anyways, I was really shocked. Not only me..the whole of CEC, would be..I know... Joseph was a friend of all and a man who could be truly said lived fully as per his wishes alone and all the more, lived too cheerfully and enjoyed life to the fullest extent. His marriage itself was the talk of the college, truly coz he was just in 3rd sem(exactly crossed 21 years). Man of great dreams, and a guy who knows to talk right to the right people, That was Joe...And such a lovely couple they made..Joe and Sunitha..and the cute angels...
No words...God joined both of you as a couple. He gifted you two beautiful flowers and thankfully took all of you together to his palace. We miss you Joe...Miss your wonderful smile and decent and gentle nature. May all of your souls rest in peace. That is the only prayer which we mere human beings can do now.
This is a time when we think of how short lived we all are. And all the hungama we create for wealth, positions and all that in this short span, forgetting all sorts of values and virtues. May this never be repeated. May we not hear other tragic incidents like this..and Let us have the strength to accept "HIS" decisions and pray to him to guide us thru the right path. Winding this up, with a very cute snap of this beautiful family.
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