Why should boys have all the fun?

I know I may sound a typical feminist to anyone who reads this sentence. I was just quoting the statement from an advertisement which brought in some feelings into me. But, the fact is that I am not a feminist. I believe in accurate opinions, strong character and value for whatever a person does and all the more sincerity in thoughts, feelings and actions.

Actually, the punch line of the ad, invoked so many questions in my mind. And to top it, I read a piece of news which talked about a gal who was stabbed by her lover for walking away from their affair and the fact that after days of struggling for life, she succumbed finally. And this happened in a busy street in day time. Seriously I am not bothered about where it happened and why did not the passers-by react to this and all that. You cannot expect such considerate reactions from people living in this century. Leave people living in metros, you cannot expect this from those living in rural areas even.

What bothered me a lot was the fact that the reason that made the guy do such a big cruelty to the gal. As per the news, they had a relationship running between them and had stopped that a few days back, due to parental opposition. Since it was the gal who took the first step of walking back, he was not able to succumb to that. Hence, this cruel gesture.

This poses some other questions to me. For every individual, his/her life is so important and our own decisions should be the ultimate in that regard. But, in some matters like relationships which pose parental pressure, would you as an individual try to pacify and make your parents understand, or would you just walk with the person you love, leaving the people who took all pains for you, right from the day you were admitted to this beautiful world? I would say, it depends from person to person, but, the fact that you are embarking on to a relationship when people to whom you mean so much and vice-versa are too much disappointed. It is very sure that you cannot feel good at heart at this situation. And ultimately, you are doing this for your own mental happiness and with that, if you get an additional disappointment, then doesn't that spoil your happiness?

I am not of the opinion that affairs and subsequent marriages are bad, but the fact that when embarking into such relations, get all people who are close with you, to be in the happier mood, to shower their blessings on you. Make them understand what you feel like and why you say that this relationship is important for you. Make them understand the importance your partner is going to make not only in your life, but also in the lives of all associated with you. I know this is easily said than done. But, the truth is that you should be able to do it.

Many a time, as I was quoting in the example earlier in my thoughts, gals are the ones who get worried when parents oppose their relationship. I am not saying that guys do not get upset, but many a time, they would be ready to face, or they be ready to try till the last moment hoping a positive response. But, gals would get really worried and there would only be a very small percentage who would actually have the courage to face any consequences that would come. You cannot blame it on the girls, but it is their true feminine nature that comes in. And here comes the tragic part. The worry causes them to take the last step, with a real heavy heart. The last decision...to walk away. But, when taking this decision, a fact that any girl should understand is that you are bound to take care of the masculine nature here. A gal may be able to suppress her feelings and say that last word, but a guy would not be able to actually take it so easily. His consciousness would tell him to go forward, keeping aside all negative thoughts and oppositions. This would prevent him to accept this fact. And to top it all, from the next day, the gal starts avoiding him, which is like a humiliation to him. This would make him take the last step. And the funniest part of it is that the gal would be blamed many a time for having embarked on the relationship and for having dropped it off in an instant. I am not generalizing this, but this is a common situation in many Indian states, at least.

The only way is either be sure of all situations and circumstances, when you embark on relationships, and also whether you would be able to convince all oppositions, if required. I am not saying that we can predict the future, but at least you should have the confidence to embark on it. And as they say, Love happens accidentally. So if this doesn't work out for you and the situation for walk away is unavoidable, be sure that both ends are at peace and are able to accept the fact. This is quite important for a girl the most. No blames should come for you when you walk away. A relationship is not a wrong thing to happen, neither a walk away is, under the most unavoidable cases. But it all depends on how it is handled. Certain instances of lovers being cruel could not be avoided, as such cases are never in your hands, but in all normal circumstances, all necessary steps can be done.

Approach any relationship with utmost sincerity, thinking many times, before the final "yes". But, if God not willing, then, be good at walk-aways, and do think of walk-aways only if it is to that extent unavoidable.

Love happens to both people involved. It happens when both share their feelings for each other. But, why should a gal only suffer the blame of being walked-away, when her gentle and cute nature and her concern for the happiness of her people, brings her the whole blame? Leave relationships, why should their be a separate eye for all actions related to gals, even if they have proved their efficiency? I am not saying that gals should protest against being looked upon from a different eye. That doesn't help. For some situations, the genetic differences and physical built-up differences between a male and a female are quite important. But, for situations where they have proved their efficiency or in situations where, a heart-breaking decision by a gal couldn't be accepted well, should not be a factor for her to be arrowed out. Consider efficiency and maturity and the character more than anything else. Why should boys have all the fun for all actions, in which gals have proved to be efficient? Just a wide thought :)